{"id":4906,"date":"2010-12-24T21:03:44","date_gmt":"2010-12-25T01:03:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/?p=4906"},"modified":"2010-12-29T12:32:51","modified_gmt":"2010-12-29T16:32:51","slug":"%e2%80%9cwhy-don%e2%80%99t-you-listen-to-the-beach-boys-anymore%e2%80%9d","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/%e2%80%9cwhy-don%e2%80%99t-you-listen-to-the-beach-boys-anymore%e2%80%9d\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWhy don\u2019t you listen to the Beach Boys anymore?\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_4948\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4948\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-4948\" title=\"brianwilson\" src=\"http:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/12\/brianwilson-300x252.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"252\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/12\/brianwilson-300x252.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/12\/brianwilson.jpg 339w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-4948\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Not made for these times.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>\u201cWhy don\u2019t you listen to the Beach Boys anymore?\u201d my wife asked me, as we watched an awkward,\u00a0white-suited, Brian-less lineup of the band play &#8220;Good Vibrations&#8221; on some &#8220;best of&#8221; the musical acts on <em>The Ed Sullivan Show<\/em> that was playing on PBS. The question took me by surprise. In our 22 years together my wife, who&#8217;s appreciation of the <strong>Beach Boys<\/strong> can be described as &#8220;mild&#8221; and does not extend beyond that song and the two big songs off <em>Pet Sounds<\/em> (&#8220;Wouldn&#8217;t It Be Nice&#8221; and &#8220;God Only Knows&#8221;), had never expressed concern for the well-being of my Beach Boys fandom.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You don&#8217;t listen to the Beach Boys anymore,&#8221; she continued, as I sat slightly stunned at this glaring lack of musical self-awareness.\u00a0&#8220;You used to listen to them all the time.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I guess I did. I remembered the early days of our relationship, when I&#8217;d spin <em>Pet Sounds<\/em> frequently, often gracing (or so I thought) her return home from work with the album that I thought celebrated our love and gave her further insight, in case she was not certain, into just how sensitive I was. Side two headed downhill fast, but playing out this drama through spinning the album seemed kind of brave of me, like I was staring down another man&#8217;s failure while building off the best bits of Brian&#8217;s triumph of love.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You don&#8217;t like them now,&#8221; I looked up,\u00a0&#8220;do you?&#8221; As soon as that that question left my tongue I felt a little queasy, like she would take this opportunity to suggest we join a swingers&#8217; scene.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I was relieved and went back to contemplating\u00a0the full implications of her\u00a0question.<!--more--><\/p><iframe class='youtube-player youtuber' type='text\/html' width='425' height='355' src='http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/2SmGaLAtCMA?rel=0&amp;fs=1&amp;ap=%252526fmt%253D18' webkitAllowFullScreen mozallowfullscreen allowFullScreen frameborder='0'><\/iframe><p>&#8220;I don&#8217;t really like that album the way you do,&#8221; she told me one day, probably about 3 years into our relationship. I was as shocked as I would be a year later, when she acknowledged that she&#8217;d never seen <em>Apocalypse Now<\/em>, and I was more than a bit crushed. I didn&#8217;t hide it well. &#8220;The band played &#8216;Wouldn&#8217;t It Be Nice&#8217; at our wedding!&#8221; I protested.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Yeah, I love that song and &#8216;God Only Knows,&#8217; but the rest of it sounds like Muzak,&#8221; she explained.<\/p>\n<p>I then launched into my whole &#8220;But that&#8217;s the sound of middle-class American aspirations falling apart&#8221; routine, the same explanation I\u00a0give friends who don&#8217;t understand my love of <strong>Dionne Warwick<\/strong>&#8216;s &#8217;60s classics, and possibly more importantly, don&#8217;t share\u00a0my deep\u00a0associations with my parents&#8217; brutally crumbling marriage in a\u00a0living room\u00a0full of heavy wood furniture, velvet drapes, Dutch Masters reproductions, and a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bambootrading.com\/NG\/nge27.jpg\" target=\"_blank\">giagantic, wood-encased stereo console<\/a> loaded with the day&#8217;s slick, sophisticated AM hits.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I don&#8217;t know,&#8221; I once more snapped back into the present, &#8220;I still love those records, but I don&#8217;t feel that way\u00a0very often these days.&#8221; I wanted to go into more detail about my grittier, bluesier, more down-to-earth music tastes these days, but that would have\u00a0been pointless and pathetic in our 20th year of marriage. She knows what I listen to, and much\u00a0more importantly she knows who I am.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;They look really awkward in those white suits,&#8221; she said as the Ed Sullivan clip reached the end.<\/p>\n<p>I\u00a0continued to listen to <em>Pet Sounds<\/em> and my other Beach Boys albums regularly for another 10 years after\u00a0her admission, usually on my own. Then my need to spin those records began to taper off. Hearing a song at a time on Oldies radio still gives me a thrill, and the most fascinating Beach Boys record, &#8220;I Get Around,&#8221; never gets old for me, but while getting deeper into my own\u00a0fine,\u00a0sometimes too-real\u00a0life\u00a0I no longer needed to pinch myself\u00a0or regularly put myself\u00a0through a musical\u00a0<em>It&#8217;s a Wonderful Life<\/em>-like horror\u00a0in order to\u00a0better appreciate\u00a0my\u00a0once-newfound love.\u00a0The\u00a0Beach Boys and <em>Pet Sounds<\/em>, in particular, have served their purpose, at least for now.\u00a0Also, during these waning years, I felt it was best to disassociate myself from desparate Beach Boys obsessives trying to convince themselves that <em>L.A. 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In our 22 years together my <a href='https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/%e2%80%9cwhy-don%e2%80%99t-you-listen-to-the-beach-boys-anymore%e2%80%9d\/' class='excerpt-more'>[&#8230;]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[342],"tags":[120],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4906"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4906"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4906\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4906"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4906"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.rocktownhall.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4906"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}